If you have a pet, dog, cat, who is not well and you would like reiki for your pet. I can come to your home and share reiki with your pet. Animals can have reiki in exactly the same way as humans can. For an appointment your cat or dog could be lying on the floor near me or in the same room, or lying on the settee next to me, I could give her/him reiki with hands on if that is acceptable to the pet or hands off. Both methods work fine.
One cat I gave reiki to, the owner picked him up and put him on her knee sat next to me, then he jumped off and sat in the room and I said I will start the reiki and once I started reiki he came over to the settee and lay down on the setee behind my head and that is where I shared reiki with him, with him lying behind my head on top of the settee. Reiki is very versatile and can be shared in many ways.
Reiki can be given to your pet along side vet treatments and medication, after operations or before them. For any health problems, for stress and relaxation.
If you would like you can book to have reiki in the same appointment as your pet ie your pet first and then you such as half hour or one hour each, or one hour for you half hour for pet etc, as you wish.
I am in Grantham so if you are within 30 miles from this you can have therapies and courses in person, but also for some courses I travel further than this. I also book salon rooms for some courses /treatments if it is not possible at your home, please enquire, you can have some therapies/courses via the internet also via telephone.
If you live in another part of UK too far to travel or you live in another country, you could take a Reiki course online.
So, having therapies and studying with me is very flexible and can be suited to your needs. One to one or in a group.
I am a pet sitter. I look after pets living at the pet owner’s home while they go away on trips and holidays. I love it. I love looking after the pets, cats and dogs and it gives me the chance to have a break myself and a change of scenery. On the website Trusted Housesitters, there are alsort of animals and birds, fish and reptiles as well. I have only looked after cats, dogs and fish up to now, but am open to looking after chickens which often allow you to have freshly laid eggs for breakfast. There are some lovely looking rabbits on the site which I would like to look after but I think I will have to say no to some of the reptiles and arachnids, gosh I spelt it right first time. I have met many absolutely lovely cats and 4 lovely dogs up to now. The owners are great too and very hospitable and friendly.
I remember my first pet sit in Weymouth with Nunu, she was an absolutely gorgeous cat. I went into the house and called shouted ‘Where’s Nunu?’ And she appeared on the pouffe next to me looking up at me. I stopped setting my alarm in the morning to feed her and she used to wake me up for breakfast which she had early at 7 am so then I would feed her. After giving her breakfast I would go back to bed and after eating it and going outside for 5 minutes she would come and go back to sleep on the bed with me. On an evening she would sit on the settee next to me.
Flint near Derby was great too, he used to lie next to me on the settee when I watched television on an evening in the living room as well and he enjoyed being brushed every day. It is lovely to get to know them all. When I was eating my dinner one day at the dining table, next thing I know, Flint the maine coon was sat on the chair next to me. He does like to be next to you when you are sat somewhere and is so friendly.
I go to the coast where I can go in the sea and body board if the beach has a lot of surf. I have breaks in lovely villages and city breaks. I have not been outside the UK on a pet sit yet but there are many places I would like to go abroad looking after pets. Of course it is easier to just get in my car and drive to somewhere in the UK and one abroad would take more planning with the flights to arrange. But eventually, I am sure I will look after some pets in maybe America or Canada, Italy and Switzerland, Austria and Australia.
Do you have any pets? If you do and would like to join Trusted Housesitters for your pet looking after when you go on trips. Here is a link so you can get a 25% discount.
Less than 2 months to another new year. Instead of waiting for the new year to start making changes, start now and try and get things accomplished before the new year. If you want to be healthier, the time to start is today. We put things off too much sometimes and time goes by without getting things we want to do done. Are you wanting to become healthier, lose weight, get fitter, slimmer, lose weight for health, exercise more, meditate more often, heal yourself, relax more, take more time off, go out more, go on more trips, treat yourself more often to things you enjoy, there is a long list of things you might like to do for yourself, your happiness and to make yourself healthier and to reduce stress and relax more.
If your goal is to become healthier, how will you do this? What things can you do to make this happen? Lose weight? Walking is the best exercise you can do if you are able to walk easily. It is kind to your knees and is free, you can do it anywhere or you can find somewhere with a nice view to walk. Swimming is good aerobic exercise, good for your lungs. Choose some type of exercise you enjoy enjoy doing and do it more, it is easy to walk every day, swimming once or twice a week. I would love to go swimming every day but of course if you are paying each time you go, every day isn’t usually possible, unless you join a members pool where you can go as often as you want to for a fixed payment.
You can heal yourself. There are many ways to self heal. Reiki, meditation, thinking positively, eating healthily. If you would like to learn any of these things, do contact me to find out how.
A change of scenery does you good, gives you chance to rethink when you may get stuck in habits that you have outgrown or don’t benefit you anymore, if you are always in the same place, the same four walls, it can be confining mentally and emotionally if you don’t go somewhere to have a break. Changes are easier to think about when you get away from where difficulties are, so that you can reassess from afar and make a plan for when you get home of what you are going to do, what you are going to change and how you can change yourself. You may be very happy with everything where you are and every thing that is going on where you live, but even so, we all need time off work, time to do other things, time to do things we enjoy, to go places that you want to go to and do things. Everything isn’t on your doorstep, for example, if you want to go swimming in the sea and you don’t live near the sea, you will need to make a plan to go to the coast so that you can do what you feel like doing, for a day trip or for a short or long break by the sea. It is worth making the effort to do things you want to do and to make the time for these things. You are worth it.
From Tracy: I recently saw on social media that magnesium helps prevent cancer. Is this true? ( via Arnold’s Pump Club to subcribe visit: https://arnoldspumpclub.com/)
Back in 2015, researchers found that for every 100 mg of magnesium you consume, you reduce your risk of pancreatic cancer by 24 percent.
The research was an association study, meaning the scientists analyzed data on more than 66,000 men and women, ages 50 to 76, looking at the direct association between magnesium and pancreatic cancer.
The study found that magnesium was protective and offered benefits regardless of age, gender, body mass index, or non-steroidal anti-inflammatory drug use.
While it was just one study, other research has found that magnesium intake is associated with a lower risk of diabetes, which is a risk factor for pancreatic cancer. That’s because magnesium plays a role in beta-cell activity in the pancreas, which helps your body regulate blood glucose.
So, does this mean magnesium prevents cancer? That’s an overstatement, but that doesn’t mean magnesium can’t reduce risk.
If you’re deficient in magnesium and don’t get enough in your diet from foods like dark leafy greens (think spinach and kale), nuts, seeds, legumes, and whole grains, then supplemental magnesium could be a good source of health protection against cancer, diabetes, and high blood pressure. And a recent study even suggests that it could help protect against stroke.
The recommended dose is about 300 to 400 mg per day
Foods With Magnesium
(from webmd.com)
Many types of foods contain magnesium. These include leafy green vegetables, whole grains, beans, nuts, and fish.
These types of fish provide magnesium:
Salmon
Halibut
Atlantic mackerel
Atlantic pollock
Vegetables and Fruits That Have Magnesium
Prickly pear has a lot of magnesium, but it isn’t the easiest food to find or prepare.
Focus instead on these fruits and vegetables that have a lot of magnesium when you cook them and plenty of other nutrients, too:
Spinach
Swiss chard (and other leafy green vegetables)
Bananas
Tamarind
Potato with skin
Okra
Broccoli
Whole-Grain Products With Magnesium
Bran cereals
Wheat germ
Quinoa
Brown rice
Legumes, Nuts, and Seeds With Magnesium
Meat and poultry don’t have a lot of magnesium, but you can find it in soy, cheese, and yogurt.
These meat alternatives are also good magnesium sources:
Black-eyed peas
Black beans
Chickpeas
Edamame
Tempeh (cooked)
Soy nuts
Tofu
Almonds, cashews, and other nuts
Pumpkin seeds, flaxseed, chia seeds, and other seeds
You can also buy whole meal bread, brown bread with added seeds, I don’t tend to eat flaxseed myself or chia seeds, but I love cashew nuts and pine nuts, I often have pasta with spinach and pine nuts in it, which I usually buy from the Co-op (https://www.coop.co.uk/https://www.lincolnshire.coop/), I love peanut butter and have always eaten it simply spread on it’s own on bread, I have fond memories of eating it as a child as well. I eat fish and do enjoy salmon and smoked salmon. I buy fishfingers with pollock fish very often. I love fish pie, which have had it most often made with salmon, cod, and smoked haddock, a fish pie mixture bought from Tesco (https://www.tesco.com/) and I also love to have it in pubs, I especially enjoyed it at some of the pubs I was in last year in Cornwall (https://www.visitcornwall.com/) where I and a friend had it often for lunch with garlic bread to go with it. I do like mackeral too and I usually either grill it or cook it in the oven wrapped in foil sprinkled with olive oil. I do like halibut as well but have not eaten it very often. I eat bananas and usually think of them for their high potassium content, but I need to remember that they also contain a lot of magnesium too so doubly good for your minerals. My mother used to eat banana sandwiches but they are not for me, I eat the fruit on it’s own usually, but I do like fruit in cereal too. Fresh taramind is lovely, but becareful it is a very sticky to eat fresh and you need to make sure you can clean your hands afterward because they will be sticky. I buy taramind sauce as well and there is taramind in some jars of brown sauces which I think is one of the reasons it tastes good. I love new potatoes cooked in their skins and when I make jacket potatoes in the oven, I always eat the skin. I love jacket potatoes with cottage cheese. I eat a lot of legumes, I have been having a lot of chillis with red kidney beans in it by making it myself, using: can of chopped tomatoes, can of red kidney beans, some frozen sweet corn, frozen green beans, marmite, Asda vegetarian gravy mix to thicken and served with rice, gorgeous. Recently I had a can of Stag vegetable and bean chilli, (https://staggchili.co.uk/product/vegetable-garden/), that was great too, I was short of time so had it with some bread. I eat a lot of hummous which is made with chickpeas, I love it in sandwiches and on toast. I used to go a lot to AllBarOne when I lived in Birmingham which is a great pub and they used to do a platter of vegetables with hummous and bread. Brindley Place is a great place to go, I went there so much when I lived in Birmingham and there are many great cafes, restaurants and bars to eat there. It is right next to the canal and there are water features which are lovely and an art gallery. I used to go to a health club at Brindley Place as well. I have very happy memories of when I went there and I do visit Birmingham now every now and again to go back to the places I enjoyed such as Brindley Place.
I have only had edame beans in cans of mixed beans and I have had them in mixed bean salad with a nice dressing from Marks and Spencer. I eat tofu and tempeh, which both have little taste but I eat them in stir fries or with pasta and sauces, in sandwiches, and in chillis or curries, if you put tempeh into a sauce or stew, it is best chopped into small cubes then it can be best enjoyed in the sauce rather than eating a bigger piece of tempeh. The first time I tried tempeh was in a vegetarian and tempeh green thai curry with rice from a take away, it was gorgeous. Silken tofu can be added to pasta sauces and it just blends into the sauce.
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There is a massive impact if you are a leader, and you cannot listen.
All the other skills you must possess to be a good leader rely on listening. These skills include having empathy, providing direction, coaching and mentoring, supporting and developing.
Last week I talked about effective communication. But the crux is that you cannot communicate effectively if you do not listen. How do you know your message has been received as intended?
Listening is at the foundation of all the other things a leader must be capable of.
I continue to run customised communication workshops for employees at all levels of the organisation, including those designated as leaders, as I observe on a regular basis people who just do not listen.
As I said last week, unless we get this right, all the leadership development you undertake will be like building a house on shifting sand. All that expensive development will have no solid foundation on which to build. You will be wasting both your time, that of your leaders, and your money.
I think the lack of effective communication and active listening is a result of people assuming that because they “communicate” and “listen” all the time, they must be ok at it. This is not the case.
Just because you can speak does not mean you are communicating.
Just because you can hear does not mean you are listening.
It is time to relearn these skills. Let’s look at listening.
Listening
We must practice active listening. This enables us to listen to obtain information, listen to understand, and listen to learn. If you practice active listening it means you are making a conscious effort to not only hear the words being spoken but more importantly, the complete message that is being communicated.
The Dale Carnegie and Associates book “Managing Through People, which I mentioned last week, includes a quiz that I thought I would use as the outline for this newsletter.
Ask yourselves these questions to understand if you are an active listener and determine areas for improvement.
Do you stop talking while someone is trying to tell you something?
You cannot listen if you are talking. Period.
Listen rather than think about what you want to say.
Give the other person your full and undivided attention.
Using nonverbal feedback such as nodding, facial expression, and the right body language to reassure the person you are listening without having to speak.
Do you concentrate on what is being said and make eye contact?
When you are an active listener, you avoid all distractions. You cannot allow yourself to be distracted by what is going on around you. This includes noise from incoming messages, phone calls, and emails. If you are checking messages when someone is talking to you, you are saying to that person that they are not a priority, and you are not really interested in what they have to say.
You must give the speaker your undivided attention and acknowledge that you are listening by making eye contact.
Eye contact is what happens when you and another person look into each other’s eyes at the same time. This is one form of non-verbal communication. You can tell when someone is looking elsewhere even if they don’t move their head. You can see where their eyes are directed and if they maintain that direction for an extended period, they are not concentrating on you.
You do not have to stare at the other person like you are trying to hypnotise them! Hold your eye contact for 4 to 5 seconds at a time. Make eye contact before you speak. As a rule of thumb, you should maintain eye contact 50% -70% of the time during your conversation.
Making eye contact helps you to remember what the other person said.
Eye contact is important as it creates a bond with the other person. It is an important display of honesty and authenticity which also builds trust and respect. It improves understanding between people by helping us to focus and read the non-verbal clues about how the other person is feeling such as their facial expression.
You can read more about why eye contact is essential to our everyday interaction with people in this article from Psychologist World.
Do you listen to the full story without interrupting?
As Steven Covey said in his book “The 7 Habits Of Highly Successful People”, most people do not listen with the intent to understand, they listen with the intent to reply.
Test this out. Next time you are in a conversation, note how long the other person speaks before your mind is immediately seeking a way to reply. When you have formulated a reply, it is extremely difficult for you to listen to what the other person is saying.
Interrupting stops the other person from speaking. You cut them off. It is human nature to want to connect and to help another person, but interrupting will have a negative impact on the connection. You have shifted the focus of the conversation to you. And it’s rude.
It also means you do not get the entire story. This can be dangerous. In 1984, Beckman and Frankel conducted a study that revealed how long a doctor would let a patient talk without interrupting them. The average time was just 18 seconds. Their conclusion was that the behaviour could lead to the loss of valuable information that is vital to arriving at a correct diagnosis. Now, whilst you may not be diagnosing a medical condition you could be providing advice or guidance that will be ill-informed because you have not listened to the entire story.
We often interrupt to ask a question, provide a solution to a problem, or show that we understand, but just like being distracted, it tells the other person that you don’t care what they have to say, and you want to end the conversation. It tells the other person that your voice is more important, and you don’t have time to listen to them.
You must learn to listen to the full story before speaking. You must let the other person finish speaking before you ask your question, offer a solution, or provide your opinion.
Avoiding interruption makes the conversation more meaningful and productive. It shows respect for the other person and encourages open dialogue. It will enhance your understanding of the other person’s message and emotions, and it will build trust.
The first thing to do is be aware of when you are interrupting. This self-awareness makes you aware of the situations where it is likely to happen. It also allows you to acknowledge to the other person that you are aware of what you just did and that you are working to improve. A simple, “Sorry, I just interrupted you, please carry on.” In this way, you can get the conversation back on track.
Here are some tips to avoid interrupting.
· Wait until there is a natural break in the conversation.
· Stop formulating your responses and just listen.
· Make eye contact.
· Reflect on what the other person said, summarise it, and play it back to them. Then you can share your thoughts.
· Be non-judgmental. When you are judgemental and disagree with what is being said, interrupting is likely to happen.
· Don’t assume you know what the other person is going to say. If you assume you know nothing, you will be forced to listen.
· Don’t try and find a solution when you should be listening.
· If you are formulating questions instead of listening, you will be more likely to interrupt. So, hold off on the questions.
· Ask the other person if they are done before you speak.
Do you restrain from injecting your own ideas and opinions and finishing the other person’s sentences for them?
This is a very annoying habit that many people have. When someone is talking and pauses to find the right words or gather their thoughts, the other person feels the need to fill the silence and start talking. Let the silence sit there for a while. It is not a vacuum that needs to be filled.
When you finish a person’s sentence for them, you have broken the flow of the conversation. You have made a terrible mistake in assuming that you knew what they were going to say. In most cases, you probably get it wrong, and you have thrown the other person right off the track.
If you finish someone else’s sentences, they will feel that you are putting words in their mouths.
Your goal is to listen so you must avoid jumping in with your own ideas and opinions. Before you enter the conversation and during it, remove your biases and be non-judgemental. Whilst your ideas and opinions may be valid, whilst you are formulating them, you are not listening. Whilst you are injecting them, you are not listening.
Here are some ways to avoid finishing sentences.
· Just like interrupting, when you recognise you are finishing other people’s sentences you can take action to avoid it.
· If the person speaking, is speaking slowly or is hesitant, be patient. Let them have time to tell you their story in its completeness. Relax.
· Ask others to tell you when you are finishing their sentences to increase your self-awareness.
· Watch the other person’s mouth. You can normally tell when they have finished speaking and if you are not sure, ask them if they still have more to add. Do not make them feel that you are wrapping up the conversation by finishing their sentences.
· Be aware of the other person’s reaction when you have finished their sentence. The fact that they are irritated, annoyed, disappointed, frustrated or hurt. When you realise the impact you have, it will help you to change your behaviour.
Do you give the impression that you are genuinely interested in what is being said?
If you want someone to tell you how they are really feeling, or share their ideas, they must know that you are genuinely interested.
There are many ways in which to do this.
· Face the person who is talking to you.
· Make eye contact.
· Open up and relax. Do not create a barrier by crossing your arms or ankles or putting your hands in your pockets.
· Nod to signal you are engaged, interested, and understanding. Nodding encourages the other person to keep talking.
· As you are nodding, try simple utterances such as, “Ah ha” or “mmhmm” or “I see. This keeps the conversation moving.
· Use facial expressions to reflect what is being said. Smile, frown, and raise your eyebrows as is fitting.
· Lean in so they know you are listening.
· Empathise by using the same facial expressions.
· Ask questions without constantly interrupting. Ask permission to ask a question. This shows you are interested in what they are saying, and you want to know more.
· When the other person finishes speaking, reflect and use your own words to summarise what they have said so they know you were listening.
Summary
If you are an active listener, you are focused on hearing the entirety of what someone else has to say. It will prevent you from missing important information which could lead to offering the wrong advice or guidance.
Active listening is a skill that can be mastered but it takes intention and commitment and practice. When mastered, it will empower you as a leader.
My name is Sheila Williams. I’m a Beauty and Holistic Therapist mobile to your home, a therapy room can be booked if needed. My treatments include: Usui Ryoho Reiki healing, in person or via distant connection. Reiki training. Spiritual and Intuitive Counselling in person or via telephone. Energetic release of abundancy blocks, Clearing and unblocking energetic blocks, as well as high frequency activation. In person or via email consultation. Indian head massage, includes shoulders,neck, upper back. Aromatherapy massages. Guided meditation, in person or via telephone. Facials. I am a compassionate and dedicated professional with extensive experience in delivering holistic services. I excel in creating calming and welcoming environments, where clients feel valued, understood, and supported in their personal growth and well-being. With effective communication skills and a genuine passion for helping others. I provide personalised treatment plans based on individual client needs and goals for physical, emotional, and spiritual well-being.
This event is at your home. Grantham , Lincolnshire and within 30 miles of Grantham. If this date is not suitable do contact me to arrange another date to suit you. reikihealing1love@yahoo.com
I recommend students take at least two months after a level one course to become familiar with what they have learned before moving onto this Reiki level 2 course. The second level brings you further development for self healing, and healing of others so that as well as being more advanced in your knowledge, and understanding of Reiki. After level two you can work as a practitioner for the public as well. You learn how to work more intuitively with the energy and start using two new symbols, Seiheki and Honshazeshonen.
